To Love or Settle for being Loved

She asked me what do you think I should do? Because she said, I am really confused. I don't want to make a mistake but I don't know if I want to pay the price of loosing being loved.

It all started about 5 years ago. At the age of 17 all her family members were pressuring her about coming up to age of marriage. They told her of course we want to you to finish your education and so forth. We just want to make sure that your future is secured. That now was the time to choose from several offers so called "suitors". That it was shameful for a girl that was close to her 20's and still not betrothed. Since they kept telling her that they will not choose her fiance for her, that the choice was hers on who she wants to marry. She declined all offers of marriage. After a year her family realized that she was serious about not wanting to be married so soon. So they gave her an ultimatum which conditions she didn't share. So she cried and cried and cried but it seemed that her tears were shed in vain.
Finely her mom and dad both choose each a candidate for her to be affianced with.
Of course mamma's choice won over dad's. But she was not a happy camper. Every time her fiance came to take her out for them to get to know each other. She would tell him that she really didn't want to marry him. And that she was only her fiance because she didn't have a choice in the matter. Hoping that by telling him that would make him back off. On this occasion also her efforts were wasted. Because her fiance would not believed that to be the truth.

Now 5 years have passed and she has finely worked the strength to leave and face the consequences with her family. At least today she says that she has support from her mom and sisters that if she is not happy with him then it best maybe that they should part before they are children in the picture.
But that's the tricky part. Because her husband will not give her the divorce that she has been asking for. It's been 2 years since they had separated and 1 year since her demand of a divorce. He keeps telling her that he needs some more time for him to let go. That he is willing to fight for they have.
And the crazy part in all this is that she really knows that her husband loves her very much. She has absolutely no doubt about that. But she also feels that it's not fair for him to give when she knows that she can't give back. Nowadays every conversation that they have over the phone ends in an argument.
And he is playing on her insecurities telling her that she will have regrets if she succeeds on having her divorce.
And that was one of her greatest fears. To be put in the same situation that her husband is in right now. Because she keeps telling me : If I ever found love and the person that I love didn't want me. Or if they treated me badly. Will it be worth loosing being Loved and cherished?

That I said to her : your guess is as good as mine. Because I don't know what I would have done if I was in your position.

(sighing heavily) Life -why does it have to be so difficult????